The relationships that were the most debilitating and unhealthy gave me the feeling that I wasn’t taking care of myself spiritually, mentally, or physically like I should.
I was feeling less than myself, like I was compromising my life goals with each second I stayed around those people. Mind you, these were both friendships and romantic relationships.
I call these relationships toxic because my authentic self withered away into someone I didn’t recognize—denying all that was natural for me.
1. It seems like you can’t do anything right.
The other person constantly puts you down as not good enough. They mock your personality, and you feel ashamed most of the time. You only feel pardoned when you take on the traits of the person doing the condemning or judging. To read more click here
2. You are constantly criticized
Bickering and arguing are part of any relationship, but constant put downs and criticism should not be accepted. Your partner is there to elevate you and make you the best person you can be, not the opposite. If you are constantly being criticized and not complimented, it may be time for you to leave.To read more click here
3. Passive aggressive behavior
If you can feel something is wrong but when you ask, “What’s going on?” the other person says, “Nothing,” but then punishes you by giving you the silent treatment … that’s passive aggression. One problem with it is that it doesn’t leave much room for resolution of the conflict. If you don’t know what’s wrong, you can’t fix it. To read more click here
4. It Feels Like You’ll Die Without Them
Codependence is defined in a lot of different ways. One of my favorites is “the disease of the lost self.” You become so focused on the other person that you forget who you are. It can very literally feel like if they were to leave your life, you would cease to exist. To read more click here
5. Ask yourself questions
Ask yourself questions, without any preconceived ideas of what the answer should be. Is this situation okay for me? What will this choice create? How will that feel for me? If I leave, what will my life be like? What will my life be like if I stay? Will I feel sadness or relief? Don’t try and force answers, pay attention to what comes up in your thoughts.To read more click here